Dear Daughter Series

                                              

6th March, 2020. 

Dear daughter, 

Trust you are doing fine. Alihamdulillahi! It's good to know that you are still up there waiting to be born into this world while things are like this. Mother can't wait to welcome you in her arms and at the same time will like to share with you a tip from her experience so far of being a girl child. 

Dear daughter, mother is becoming wary everyday about the stereotypes surrounding the girl child, and the threat it poses in her life and yours. Everytime she tries to close her eyes on a girl being thrusted with so much house chores, she sees another woman being battered and ripped off of her rights and that of her children. And at uncountless times, other girls being abused on the platter of love and uncountlessly also, others being raped and mocked either as a child or grown up, for their vulnerability and every other ingenuine excuses the perverts have been tendering. 

My daughter, in this world, a woman must be a superhuman, she must be stoic, silent and never to fight back. If she fights back, she is a feminist. If she tries to change her narratives, she is a prostitute, and if she pushes further, a witch. 

Dear daughter, every woman is blamed for men's adversities. If a male child rapes a woman or a 2 year old girl, the victims are either loud or lewd or both they must have dressed obscenely to provoke their rapist. If a male child slaps a woman older or younger, the woman or the girl probably lacks manners and to the extreme, 'They forced him to'. If a woman gets a job or favourable position above the men, she is a prostitute who sells her body to the top or better still, she uses her witchcraft. For every man's mischief to the women, the women always deserve it. 

Dear daughter, education for a girl child is a privilege and not a right. If she is given education, it comes with conditions and education with these conditions are likened to a young child who is given a sweet with the right hand for it to be immediately collected with the giver's left hand. Or rather I say, it is like the Nigerian government who gives palliatives and collect it back in multifold with taxes. Is that a world you will like to come? 

Dear daughter, mother is not scaring you. No. Life is full of adversaries and at the same time there  are things worthy to be lived for such as love, procreation, and professionalism. All these give her joy, they give her pleasure and that should be enough reason for any woman to live. 

Dear daughter, to tell you the fact, mother's dream of breaking into the world, of being an entrepreneur or better still, an independent woman is terribly shaking and at the point of collapse. Do you see why you need to wait for a little while before coming? Mother will, at regular interval, brief you as events unfold and tell when the life is safe to live for you, dear daughter. 

Yours.