Licking off Liability in the Lasses, what and what does it takes?

As a young female with a parent, growing up it takes a lot. Care and love is what I rely so much on even till now, where I get them is one thing the young and the children in me cry to share, to tell you how so hard and good it could be, living  ethical and healthy life with no one at all even though I have a parent, either my parent is a mother  or a father is one thing I will like you to guess out as you trail in line of my story that brings out this topic you might think is impossible, impossibility has no room in my own dictionary, you want to know why? Follow me.

I am Adeyinka. Tall, slim, fair in complexion and loquacious are my features even from a wee lass, it trailed a lot of comments from my cousins, uncles and aunties that some give me beauty as a name, permanent name! Unchangeable like birth name as I spend weekends from one uncle to another just because mummy wanted me to have a taste of what it is like to have a father.

 Father indeed! Yes, I wouldn’t deny that I have a father
like no other and then I had a liability as a father too, it just goes in line to an event my mummy suffer me so much for without knowing the cause till now which I am not ready to tell her from my own mouth, people says from the horse’s mouth, yea! I concur, I am the horse offended by the person on my back and then I can’t talk than to  listen to him narrating the story because if I do, she will run and would not be able to hear my side of the story…..just to tell you how so tight they are even in the family hierarchy.

Incest! ; The word rang in my head, so strong that my heart beat to the rhythm and my mind told me the deed had been done already to console myself, negating the lecture of my teacher that says if it happens to us, we should report to any elderly one around and that is where the story of the horse come, because before then mummy never believed my story of him starving me of food, he is my mummy Mr. Right if you don’t know. It was in my Junior Secondary School one long break with him then, my career mentor uncle on request to safe my mummy from my incessant question on her supposed lover, I left his room immediately with  tears to find solace in my family friend down the stairs after I had promised him that I will not cough what happened between us to anybody for the fear of facing his wrath, it was something I did not believe at first until the truth hutted me that he can fore ever go scot free because of the innocent face and the soft voice he begot, you can never think of him as such!

It brought about my gentleness, let me say it quietened me for three days that I could not go out but I was well-fixed with all the meaty and sumptuous things my mind could call for then even though I requested for none.

On the afternoon of the third day, my uncle has gone out with his warning has usual ‘’go out if you like for them not to suspect anything but no say anything at all or ask any question o” He said, failing to give examples of the bad he could do more to me, I was thinking about this and my home going when I heard a gentle tap on the door.

Segun am not ready to play; I spoke directly to send him off without opening the door to check because I know for sure that it is only him that could be knocking, he is just my holiday friend out of all others in the building

Yes, I am the playful type I know, everybody thinks I don’t have any important thing to do other than play and I thought you are different; he said loudly enough to be heard by all the people in the building

He is angry I thought…am sorry; I told him…am just not feeling to well!

Okay, I want to tell you what you asked the last time; he said as I opened the door

And you said you are not feeling right; he challenged me

If only he knew how sick I am inside, it kept racing in my mind as if the act ran in my blood; my mind in disputation whether or not to tell him. What is it like to be beaten; I asked him shyly instead

It is good to be in upper hand than to be the victim and that is why I came to give you the reason why you should join your school War against Indiscipline (WAI) brigadier in your school

  And I have told you that the brigade is for male, you expected me to join that when we have other clubs that are educative other than marching around like soldiers; I interrupted him with confidence

 Do you know how much time I spent on my aunt’s phone researching? never even mind, I have found out that men have been watching beautiful women since the dawn of time which has made many of the men over power the weak women to sexually abuse them and that is why we had people being raped but if you have a defence class like that of the brigadier you will be free…… he continued

  That tells me something, could be true, I ponder on it, and may be….. Just that might have helped; I thought. It is a lie I told him

 It is true my dear, I am also a student of a defence class; she said giving a hand to segun that he is being called

Aunty, ourss teacher told us that we have humanitarian bodies that sees to our protection; I said

Prevention is better than cure my girl, grow your instinct, be ready to fight with what you have like your teeth or pepper spray, don’t get to be laid easily without having a fight because after the Lagos State Child Right Law in 2007 and criminalization of rape and other sex crimes of making them punishable, the liability men still act in lust to destruct the vulnerable world of women

How can I give a fight if the person is so strong and as big as a bouncer, I asked full of concern

 Just give it what you get because they all does not expect a woman or a lady to be strong in that shock state; she said when are mummy called her

It seemed that was what was omitted all over my days on earth, I have been a liability all through but then another day comes before the end of the holiday and I unexpectedly wither him, which marked the starting days of my living on edge, free like the wind not living out vulnerability.

A defense class is just we need to be free from sexual abuse. Let’s train firm ladies …………. Not liabilities.